Divorced And Loved

Divorce rate is getting higher and higher each year. It seems like an endless cycle. It is familiar for those who likes to predict and dig about how effective marriage is in this world.

I have seen many divorces in my life. My parents got divorced when I was in elementary. Some of my friends also experiences living with a single parent when they were in elementary. Social media and news always having an update about celebrity couples who are having a breakup or divorce. It’s becoming more relevant and natural to filed a divorce.

The word divorce is not just talking about a husband and wife status. It is talking about how we disconnect ourselves to this world. Even the bible had many stories that tells about how broken the human world is, and the brokenness is still growing until now. People hurt each other and hate each other.

C. S Lewis mentioned something about how we could love our neighbors. In “The Great Divorce”, he quoted

You cannot love a fellow creature fully till you love God. 

That statement is interesting, because it resembles how Christian culture lives until today. Focus about our love to God. It always starts with us, not God. The bible mentioned that loving God is the greatest commandment of all of the commandments (Matthew 22:37). Yet the law itself gives us knowledge of sin (Romans 3:20). We were trying our best, but we ended up failing again and again. We prostitute ourselves, and claim a divorce paper on God at the same time without realizing we actually boast ourselves., We’re becoming self-centered and hypocritical. We start to point our finger at others. We don’t see our neighbor as a human, but as an obstacle and stumbling block for us. We devalued them.

The minute you think you have gotten on God’s good side by your own behavior, you are naturally prone to demonize those who haven’t. 

Jefferson Bethke on Jesus>Religion

It’s the same as the pharisees back in the bible story, where he mentioned himself clean because of what he’s done back on that day.


Today, we’re casting out people. We curse them. We judge them. We labeled them. We are divorced. We are disconnected. We are separated.


Most importantly we are losing our humanity.


We deny Jesus by judging people because of what they did or whom they befriended with. Jesus is the friend of sinners. He didn’t come to people who think of themselves clean because of what they’ve done. He came to people who are broken, hurt, savaged, distorted, and trashed by this world.

Jesus is not ashamed to be the friend of sinners. He showed love and grace. Favor and mercy. Blessings and gratitudes. He picked up the woman who caught in adultery and said : I don’t condemn you, go and sin no more.

Isn’t that good news?


You are not to messed up to be loved.


You are not to broken to be healed.


He brings you the coat of righteousness, to show and tell that you are clean right now.


You are holy and blameless because of Him.


He died for the ungodly (you and me). Stop trying to be holy because you’re already holy. It’s all because of Him, not you.


I believe in it.


Do you?


However, to the one who does not work but trusts God who justifies the ungodly, their faith is credited as righteousness.

Romans 4:5 NIV


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